No matter our level of attraction we can always
increase it to the level we fill very satisfied with. One thing about
attraction is that, it is a learnable behavior in the social realm. What we
call attraction is nothing but the way people respond to our social behavior, attitude,
beliefs and carriage.
In trying to be more attractive, we have to switch
on some certain behaviors that make people to respond to us in a much favorable
way. When we increase and fine-tune attraction triggering behaviors, we
invariably increase our attraction quotient.
I have personally studied some people who are very
attractive both in their private and public lives. There
seem to be something about them that people find charming, something
exceptional and pleasurable.
It actually took me some time to really scoop out this
element of attraction in these people. Another thing I also found out was, every
one of us has this attraction element in us. The only set back is the degree to
which we allow it to flows out of us. In trying to be the Hollywood stars we
see on TV we just kill off our attraction qualities.
Follow
me and be the super attractive you.
When we first come in contact with people, the only
barometer we use in measuring and sizing them up is what we see and hear firsthand
about them. We judge people basically based on what we see. Through what we
see, we are able to judge if they fit in to our class or not, if they could be
our friends or not, if they are potential relationship partners or not, if they
are going to be interesting to be around or boring. All these we are able to
know or perceive through what we see.
You could also use this to your own advantage. Since
people first of all judge you by what they see about you. Why not create a very
powerful and compelling impression everywhere you go by appealing to people’s
senses. In the first part of this article we are going to see the physical
aspect of attraction.
Physical
Aspect of Attraction
1. Smile;
a sweet and genuine smile is a very powerful way to create a feeling of
attraction in people. Smiling tells people that you are comfortable in your own
skin and that you like people. A genuine smile subconsciously tells people that
life is a beautiful. Plus it is very contagious and makes others to respond
with a smile too.
2. Have
good eye contact; as the popular saying goes, the eye is the window to the
soul. Exhibiting a healthy eye contact will make you to be attractive in the
eyes of others. Looking people in the eyes tells them you are confident, honest
and trustworthy. Not only that, it also shows them that you like them. Avoiding
eye contact could be interpreted as a sign of boredom, low self-esteem, snobbishness,
or you hate being around people. Try as much as possible to give good eye
contact. If you are not able to give good eye contact naturally. I will suggest
you practice with yourself in your home. Every morning before you live for your
office try looking very deeply into your own eyes for at least five minutes
straight. It will help you in looking into others’ eyes. The psychological
trick here is, when looking in to other person’s eyes, imagine they are your
reflection in the mirror and calmly and confidently look them in the eye.
3. Dress
well; a good dressing speaks volume about you. It shows how sophisticated you
are. Through your dressing people are able to know who you are to an extent. Many people draw conclusion about your
personality through your dressing. So endeavor to dress in a nice and
impressive way. The rule of dressing here is simple, fashionable and fitting.
4. Upright
posture; let your posture and carriage be upright and open. Never be caught
slumping or dragging your body. Be straight, be smart and be open.
After you have created a good attraction by the
physical impression you have made. You need to show people that you are also
attractive from within. I do not encourage pretense here but a genuine
expression of yourself to others. If you do not possess some of these qualities
I am going to outline, please strive as much as possible to develop them. They
are what will really give you off as attractive or unattractive in the long
term
These qualities are more of personality projections
that help in creating strong and powerful attraction anywhere you find yourself
in.
1. Be
self-confident; self-confidence is the recipe for a more attractive
personality. Showing confidence is a great magnet for attraction not only in
the social realm but in all aspect of our lives. Confident people are good to
be around; they are not awkward about themselves or others. When you are around
them they put you at ease. This is why they are very attractive.
2. Show
genuine interest in people; people have the ability to instinctively sense if
you like them or not. There is no amount of external expression that can make
people to be attracted to you if deep down you don’t like them. You must be
genuinely interested in others before you can attract them. A good place to
start is to have loads of affirmation to help you love at the subconscious
level.
3. Be
a good conversationalist; most of our social interactions is spent in conversing
(verbally or non-verbally).You must come across as been a good
conversationalist before you can be truly seen as attractive. The question now
is how do you converse in an attractive way? The answer is, you must not talk
too much, otherwise you will irritate people. Or talk too little, you bore
them. You should talk 50% of the time and equally listen 50% of the time. That
appears as been cool. Never form a habit of dominating every conversation, allow
others the space to talk too—let them talk about themselves, their jobs, family,
hobbies and interest. They will be eternally grateful that you listen to them.
4. Express
yourself assertively; be the kind of person who stand up for what they believe
in at every situation. Stand up for
others too. In doing this be firm, straight forward and polite. They will come
to respect your kind of person in the long run. But be careful, never mistake
aggression for assertion they are two different things.
5. Be
playful; all work without play makes you a dump ass. Be maturely playful in
your attitude. Don’t be too serious in everything, be light-minded too. Being
playful as a person makes people to see you as a source of relieve from the
hustle and bustle of life. When you are maturely playful, both young and old
will gravitate towards you.
6. Cultivate
a good sense of humor; laughter makes us to feel good about ourselves and about
the source of the laughter. Laughter is known to stimulate the brain to produce
the feel good chemicals (endorphins) which makes us to feel high emotionally. When
you become the source of this laughter people will surely be attracted to you,
since you are the source of the happy feeling. In trying to develop a good
sense of humor I will encourage you to read humor books, watch funny movies,
listen to funny audio and also be aware of the funny things you do.
7. Live
passionately; those who know there dreams and passionately pursue it are rare
on earth. When you are passionate, you are simply telling others, I know what I
want and I am ready to stick with it no matter what. It shows people you are
consistent and reliable. And people see this as been attractive.
8. Be
genuine; a photocopy can never be as valuable and attractive as the original. Originality
carves out a place for you among people. It separates you from the crowd. Most people
think blending with the crowd is cool. Well the truth is, it is not cool. You
aren’t created to blend with the crowd but rather to express your uniqueness. To
be attractive, you must be unafraid to be unique. At the onset of your
interaction with people, they might misunderstand you. But never worry, as they
get to know you better, they will appreciate who you are.
9. Excellent
breath; have you ever come across someone you wish you never spoke with? Their
breath was so stinking and repulsive. In order to create attraction, you must
make sure your breath is in excellent shape. When people come so close to you
let them leave with the feeling of freshness that emanates from you.
10. Have
a healthy dose of optimism; whatever you face in life always have a positive
attitude about life. Believe that things are going to get better. Hope in the
best. Strongly express your faith in something greater than you. Let your
optimism flow outward to others. Let others know that despite what happens in
life there is still joy and happiness that can be derived from it. Never be the
moaner and whiner in your social, family or work circle. Be the carrier of
light.
If you follow the tips outlines in this article, your
attraction quotient would soar exponentially to a new height that will amaze
you.
PS; if there are other ways you know attraction can
be boosted, let us have your style and perspective.
